Pregnant and Considering Your Options

Recently I found a spot called CafeMoms where many moms connect on line. Many adoption groups are included. Some welcome all triad members, some are for birthmoms. A friend has one specifically for reunited birth moms http://www.cafemom.com/group/14715.

Mainly borne out of frustration, I created a group for pregnant women considering their options and have requested that paps not solicit for babies on the site. I'll let you know how it works out! So far, our members are birth moms ready to share. I want moms who will encourage and support the parenting option and will not portray adoption as all sweetness and light. We will talk about all options as honestly as possible, but concentrate on the parenting option. Eventually, I plan to offer resources as well for pregnant women and new moms.

Here's the link for my new group. Know anyone considering their options or who has experiencd an unplanned pregnancy? Or, someone who believes wholeheartedly first in the parenting option? If so, send them my way!

Hope to see you there!

Recently, I stumbled upon a blog written by a brand new adoptive mom. http://weblog.xanga.com/nettiebeau/621535924/continued.html. It disturbed me beyond measure. Unfortunately, I found this blog right before I shut off the computer for bed, so sleep was elusive. The post is dated October 14, 2007 and entitled "Adoption Week." There is talk of an "entrustment ceremony," asking the mother if she's ready for the ceremony to hand over the baby. "Yes, "No" - it seemed pretty clear to me how conflicted and uncertain the young mom was with the adoption decision. The crowning blow though was talk of the young woman's father saying that he was "reminding" her why she'd made the adoption decision. Yeah right, he needed to remind her so she wouldn't change her mind. Then the adoptive mom mentioned that:

"The decision that had been made before the hormone levels changed and the emotions got in the way."

Right, we certainly do not want any emotions to have any part in a decision to place your baby for adoption! People ask birth mothers how they can "give their babies away." I ask how can a adoptive mom take a baby from a young mother who so clearly wants to parent her baby?