Recently, I stumbled upon a blog written by a brand new adoptive mom. http://weblog.xanga.com/nettiebeau/621535924/continued.html. It disturbed me beyond measure. Unfortunately, I found this blog right before I shut off the computer for bed, so sleep was elusive.
The post is dated October 14, 2007 and entitled "Adoption Week." There is talk of an "entrustment ceremony," asking the mother if she's ready for the ceremony to hand over the baby. "Yes, "No" - it seemed pretty clear to me how conflicted and uncertain the young mom was with the adoption decision.
The crowning blow though was talk of the young woman's father saying that he was "reminding" her why she'd made the adoption decision. Yeah right, he needed to remind her so she wouldn't change her mind. Then the adoptive mom mentioned that:
"The decision that had been made before the hormone levels changed and the emotions got in the way."
Right, we certainly do not want any emotions to have any part in a decision to place your baby for adoption! People ask birth mothers how they can "give their babies away." I ask how can a adoptive mom take a baby from a young mother who so clearly wants to parent her baby?
posted by Cookie @ 7:17 PM
4 Comments:
Ohhhhhhh, yuck.
That's really awful. That poor girl.
I actually feel sick to my stomach after reading that woman's post. There are just SO MANY things wrong with the way she is adopting.
GAH! Why do so many AP's have to give us all a bad name!
My heart hurts for that baby boy who is going to be told all kinds of wrong things about his parents.
Jamie
After I finished losing my breakfast over her post, I read the comments--just as bad. My fav, though, was this one...
"Happiness for you, sadness for the fact that their poor choices led them to having to do the right thing that causes so much pain."
WTF?!
How can the "right" thing be the thing that causes the most pain? And who the hell is this woman to judge this girl's choices?! OMG, seriously, people like that commenter make me want to vomit...
Just thought I'd let you know I am that adoptive mom, and I am appalled that you a ridiculing our adoption situation as you are. We have a truly beautiful relationship with our son's birthmom now, and she does not regret for ONE MOMENT her decision to place her child for adoption. We, as the adoptive parents, did not FORCE her to make that decision. She chose a 2-parent home for our son, and we are overjoyed. We were unable to have biological children, so for us and our son, this was the best thing that could have ever happened. Before you go talking smack about someone else's life, next time think about the other side of the story!!
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